Surpassing Our Insecurities

We all go through life with insecurities. Maybe they’re about our physical appearance or intellectual capability. Maybe they stem from something that happened to us as a child. Perhaps we don’t know how to define them with words, and just feel an overwhelming amount of anxiety around other people.

As we grow up, these insecurities continue repeating themselves. Again and again. They are patterns in our minds. They will continue to come and bother us until we choose to address them.

What happens if we never address them? Do they just get pushed deeper and deeper down? Do they start to manifest themselves in other ways?

I think they start merely as projections. We judge other people for the qualities we most dislike in ourselves. This is an act of hatred, not so much against the person you are judging, but more so against yourself.

It’s hard to love yourself sometimes. It’s easy to think you’re not good enough. That maybe, if you fix what is wrong with you, you will be more deserving of love.

So we try to change ourselves. To be in a constant state of improvement. To fix all the problems. To look down on our past self instead of appreciating our present selves. When really, all along, we just have to learn how to accept ourselves for how we are. To accept that, in this moment, we are exactly where we need to be.

Not everyone will accept you for who you are. It’s impossible. Also, it’s okay if (and when) there are people who don’t. We can choose who we surround ourselves with. There are over seven billion people on this planet, and statistically speaking, probably like a couple hundred million or so that would think you’re pretty cool.

Stop questioning whether you’re good enough for them, and start asking if they’re good enough for you. Do they treat you with the love you deserve? With respect? With honesty and compassion? Do they care about you as much as you care about them? If not, you need to move on. Life is far too valuable to waste.