How to Deeply Connect to Another Person

Deeply connecting to another person is a lot like meditation. You must empty your mind of all thoughts that you’re holding onto and feelings that exist within your body and listen intenty to what they are saying, watch their body language, and show that you are interested in getting to know who they are as a person.

Oftentimes when meeting someone new we like to show off, exhibiting to them our best features, trying to prove we are good enough. But, concurrently, they are also doing the same thing. We desperately want others to like us upon first impression, but by attempting to show off, we aren’t getting anything new out of the experience.

We should make these interactions more about the other person than ourselves. If you show that you truly care about who they are, the other person will likely return the favor. They will mirror you and try to get to know you on an equally deep level.

Sometimes the other person will open up to you and it’s important to make them feel comfortable when they choose to be vulnerable. No matter what thoughts or feelings may arise, if someone starts to open up, it’s important to prevent yourself from reacting too strongly to the situation.

If someone opens up and you close yourself off or react in a judgemental way, they will not want to continue opening up to you. It’s quite difficult to make others feel comfortable being vulnerable, but once you’ve reached this point, you must not mess it up because you don’t know when or if it will happen again.

Alongside them being vulnerable, if you want to connect deeply with other people it’s vital to be vulnerable yourself. Sometimes others may not like this. They may close off or become judgemental, but that’s okay. Judgement does no direct harm, however uncomfortable it may feel.

The most important part of these interactions is feeling comfortable with yourself. If you are not and often are closed off from others, it will be hard to connect on a deeper level with them. By working on yourself, understanding your strengths and weaknesses on a profound level, and learning to accept yourself for everything that you are, it becomes easier to accept others for all that they are.

Sometimes we have major differences and it seems difficult to accept someone if they don’t think or behave in the exact same way that we do. But, underneath this difficulty is the reality that we cannot truly, profoundly connect with someone until we learn to accept both them and ourselves.