Single on Valentines Day?

I haven’t been single on Valentines Day for a few years. I always feel a pressure during this time to find someone as if I won’t be complete without some date at a restaurant, tacky flowers, and a heart shaped box of chocolates.

I’ve been single for the first time in years for the past couple of months, and during this time, I’ve realized how much I relied on other people to make me happy instead of finding it within myself.

I felt uncomfortable going out on my own when I was in a relationship because I thought I needed someone to come with me. I enjoyed the company and conversation. But, I started to lose my own sense of independence.

I tied my worth to another person because without it, I would be floating alone. I was afraid to float alone. I couldn’t stand feelings of lonliness. I thought they were pathetic. My mind tricked me into believing that the only way I could be complete was with another person by my side.

But today, I woke up and decided that the day of love can be dedicated to myself instead of focusing all my energy on making another person happy. I have been doing everything I want to do, without shame. I sat in bed and watched Netflix for at least five hours. I bought two doughnuts instead of one. I did face masks and listened to music and basked in the sun.

Usually people believe that Valentines Day is only for couples, but it’s just as nice to take yourself out on a date from time to time. I love to dress up really nicely and go out to a restaurant, have a few drinks, and go see a show on my own. Honestly this time is better spent than the majority of dates (if not all) I’ve been on (sorry ex boyfriends!).

This time is for myself, and being single is for myself. It’s about finding out what makes me happy without the influence of another person.

I am tired of being in this constant state of either looking for someone or being with someone. I don’t need either because I am full as I am.

So if anyone else is single on Valentines Day and feels bad about it, just try to be kind to yourself. Our worth is determined by how we view ourselves, and our value doesn’t diminish when we’re alone.